The Reconnected Man

For men who are needed, but want more from life.

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Weekly Tuesday · 4:30 Bali · 10:30 CET

Decide what you want. Ask for it. And see what happens.

More of you, not a different you.

Watch this first

Reconnect with brothers who hold you to a higher standard.

2:38

“The results you're getting today are not a reflection of who you are today. They're a reflection of who you've been.”

Sounds like you?

Being who you think they want you to be. Rather than just you.
Satisfied. Comfortable. But can't remember the last time you felt anything.
What you want becomes a project, because a project is safer to talk about.
Problem-solver mode always on. Even when it isn't yours to solve.
You spent years looking forward to this. You're here. Now what?
Always learning, always growing. The applying rarely lasts.

You already know.You've just got very good at talking over it.

It never looks like avoidance from the inside.

Every man decided the thing he wanted could wait. None of them called it that.

Consideration
Realism
Responsibility
Standards
Learning
Planning

“It's a caretaking strategy. And it's protecting you from asking the hard thing.”

How It Works

01

Decide What You Want

The personal unmet values and needs.

02

Asking For It

No hedge, and no half question.

03

The Answer In Reality

Not your assumption of it.

A simple ask you already know you should make.So why haven't you?

The Relational Connection System™ VisionValuesVelocity

What this isn't.

No drumming
No ice baths
No breathwork
No alpha
No guru

We're not asking you to become a different man.

Not a mastermind
Unlike business strategy, we're not going to mastermind your wants.
Not therapy
More than just talk, we're going for it together.
Not a lads' chat
The conversations you don't get to have in your day-to-day.

The difference

You can witness your truth, sit with it, and choose to simply feel it for what it is.

Be seen, heard and witnessed in your truth, amongst brothers you won't find among friends.

01
Seen
Not the version you take to work.
02
Heard
All the way to the end of the sentence.
03
Witnessed
Somebody else knows now. That is what makes it real.
04
A higher standard
Brothers who expect more of you than your friends do.

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Daniel Lawson

I stopped asking for what I wanted, and called it something more respectable.

A coach asked me what my relationship values were. I said trust, honesty, respect, loyalty. He told me those were baselines, that if you don't have them you don't have a relationship, and asked what was truly important to me. I went blank.

I sat in a café and didn't move until I had something. What came out wasn't a list. It was a different question: how do I want to feel? That opened the whole framework.

I had walls, that I had been calling standards.

ICG Accredited6 Years CoachingGlobal Facilitator

From men inside

“I dropped something that had been working for years. Being certain about a decision, whatever comes of it. That's what I'm proud of.”

Jordi

“There was so much resistance to doing it. I did it anyway, and it was really nice. Then I realised I'd treated myself as well. I can't remember the last time I did that.”

Harrison

“I realised I can do a lot of this as a relationship with myself. Understood, supported, appreciated. I want that with someone. I want it with myself first.”

Alex

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1:07

what we stand for

What we value.

We all have skin in the game and play full out. We require the same from you upon entry.

we become your brotherhood

Dedication

We all commit to the process by showing up like this work matters, because it does.

Punctuality

As a sign of respect to ourselves and each other. Time is a sacred resource here.

Raw Vulnerability

Being the best with imperfection. Real, unfiltered, and fully present.

One intention

Your ask. Either response is a win.

Yes is what you want. No is truth and clarity.

The offer

Join the Brotherhood

A room of men doing the same work.

€89a month

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Your price is locked in for as long as you stay. Cancel anytime.

Stay, and here's the four weeks.

Decide what you want. Ask for it. And see what happens.

One live session a week, in four-week cycles
Live facilitation and hot seat work
A defined theme each month, with the prompt a few days ahead
Access to the group between sessions
First access to new frameworks and resources

The short application first is to ensure a strong mutual fit, for you and for the group.

After four weeks

You'll have made the ask.

Continue to build on it

More reps, with the same ask or a different one.

Continue more personally

Credit your membership toward 1:1 work in Reconnect.

Continue on your own

Take what you've got, and go use it.

Common questions

Before you come.

Do I need to be in a relationship for this?

No. The men in here are single, married, separated, and everything in between. What they have in common is the pattern, not the postcode. One man rehearses who he needs to be before he opens the front door, another sits in the car outside a bit longer. Same pattern.

I already talk to my mates. Why would I pay for this?

Because of what gets said. Your mates get the version of you that's fine. In here the conversation goes where it doesn't go over a pint, and there's someone holding it so it lands somewhere rather than trailing off.

Isn't this just another men's group?

Most of them run on more force. More discipline, more commitment, more accountability. Force is usually what's already failing. We work the other way: find what the habit is paying you, and go around it.

Can I come once before I decide?

Our standard is to have skin in the game. It's month to month and you can cancel anytime, so your first four weeks is your trial for the price of a dinner.

Do I have to talk?

No. Plenty of men get their money's worth watching someone else's hot seat, because the thing being opened up is usually theirs too.

Are there upsells coming?

No. There's 1:1 work in Reconnect if you decide you want it deeper, and your membership comes off the cost. Same work, same direction. More personal.